For the past couple of years, I’ve basically made the same New Year resolutions…
Drink more water
More life balance
Pay off more of my student loans
….basically, I was telling myself I needed to do more.
2018 was definitely a year of growth. I barely worked out, prioritizing my side business over myself most of the time. I didn’t have time to do anything more, yet I constantly felt like I wasn’t doing enough. Recently, I read this article about Millennial Burnout, and I highly suggest you give it a read. It’s lengthy, but justified some of the stress and feelings I had throughout last year (and still have now).
At the end of the year, I came across a Facebook post that said to come up with your word of the year starting with the letter of your first name. My immediate response in my head was action. I wanted to stop writing out a long list of to-do’s and actually do them. But now after reading that article, I realized why I felt like I was never doing enough. Because there is constantly a long list in my head of to-dos. And even if I cross one-off, there will be more added and I will never feel accomplished. There is never an ending point or state of completion. So I never feel like I’m doing enough. I always need more.
And I know I’m not alone in feeling this way. It’s not just because I have a side hustle and I feel the need to constantly share more with my audience. That definitely has a lot to do with my personal struggles, but I know if you’re reading this you also have your own never-ending to-do list and things you would like to do more of. Even if the task is so simple. In the article, they called that errand paralysis, and I can definitely relate to that. I have a constant, never-ending list of simple things I need to do.
2019 is the year I need to do less. Not that I don’t have huge goals in 2019, but I need to be more forgiving of myself and accept that I can’t always do more. I’m not saying this to discount your resolutions if you’re wanting to “do more” of something. In fact, I encourage you to get it girl! But if you are in a place of constant stress and anxiety, I hope you take a step back and realize just have much you’re already doing. And I hope that helps justify how and why you’re feeling this way! I saw on Instagram recently that someone creates a “done” list instead of a to-do list for this very reason. Maybe I will try that out.
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I just wanted to share a few thoughts I had transitioning into the New Year. To see outfit details, head to this post. Thank you so much for reading!
xo Amanda John